Path to Healing
By Bonnie Moss 2004-08 (c)
shadows lurking in the
cool brightness of the moon
footsteps in the quiet of the night,
whispers blowing in the wind,
perilous undercurrents beneath
a calm sea
unforgiving sun on parched earth,
such is the haunting pain of deep
wounds no one can touch nor fathom. .. BF Moss
It is within us to explore and draw upon our inner resources to heal. Some wounds
are embedded so deeply that no amount of professional expertise can cure, much
less heal.
A famous Yale surgeon says that as a surgeon, he cuts into the body, but he can
not order the wound to heal. Ultimately, it is through our efforts that healing can occur.
The path to healing is a personal choice.It is a path where you choose to piece together
the fragments and make it whole again.It paves the way to self-discovery, to open the
door to your inner self and experience inner harmony and ultimately, come to meet the
child within that has longed for your love,care and attention. The child within that is
forgotten, pushed to the background, lurks in the shadows, but patiently waits to be
acknowledged.
WHAT NEEDS HEALING?
Childhood trauma:
The imprints of childhood experience is a powerful force. An expectant mother who lives
through a stressful situation during pregnancy shares the burden with the unborn child.
Years ago,domestic matters were never discussed openly, especially issues about abuse,
violence, neglect,abandonment and other related matters.
Today, society is more aware of the potential or actual existence of abuse and violence in
the home. Tragic that the innermost and safest sanctuary society depends upon can be the
most dangerous.These are issues that take its toll on the young victims. They grow up with
wounds, carry them around like a heavy load on their shoulders.Some never get over their
trauma, it turns up at the most unexpected moment to haunt them;yet, there are those who
are lucky enough to confront it and use it to propel themselves to a healthier mind, body and
spirit, enjoy successful relationships and life itself.
When love is a venom:
How many hearts have known pain all in the name of love.It invades lives from all walks
of life, social status, add to that race or creed.No one wants to suffer pain, but it does
happen. Healing a broken heart, picking up the pieces of broken hopes and dreams, suffer
the betrayal, endure shattered self-image,re-live the haunting nightmares, the violation
of one's innermost being, soul and spirit. All these can take a lifetime to heal.
The most traumatic of all is the violation that comes from those who are supposed to provide
a nurturing and safe environment to those who are entrusted to their care.All in the guise of love.
Grief
The loss of a loved one can be most devastating. Sometimes one did not have a chance to
bid their last farewell. It was all too sudden.Or one passes away after a lingering illness,
with the relief that the suffering is over comes the grief of the loss. At one point and time in
one's life, grief is a reality one must face.
Guilt
Wrong turns, wrong choices, wrong decisions. We all take wrong turns, make wrong decisions
and choices.This is a human trait, even the saintliest of the saints has experienced this.
We stumble, we fall, but many of us manage to get up and get on with life.The losses incurred
at times may be life-threatening, or at the cost of financial comfort and security or worst,
relationships are threatened, lost ,sadly but innocently or unconsciously ,someone else has
to bear consequences and the sacrifice.
Wearing guilt on your sleeves, in your heart, in your being invites negative vibrations and
digs you deeper into the mire.Take a look at those sad eyes,the window of the soul,and you'll
know.This is not a dead-end!
Unfulfilled dreams and hopes
Live your dream,ride on the wings of hope-this will not always work out. One day you wake up
and realize your dream never materialized and now you languish over the many years you spent
trying to pursue that dream!
All this while, time, opportunities and life passed you by.Hope can lead to disappointment-
realize this. When all hopes are dashed, what have you got?
PATH TO HEALING:
Healing is a complex matter. Who has never felt the pains of suffering, be it physical, mental,
emotional, material and spiritual.
Even our dear Mother Earth is in desperate need of healing from the abuse inflicted upon
her through man is recklessness,negligence and lack of respect for her.
There are avenues open to healing. One may choose to spend time with a professional, seek
comfort from related groups,from family, but always, healing has to start with oneself, from
within that deep well of strength.
It takes determination to face up to your dilemma, but, ultimately,it is most rewarding to regain
your personal power, self-confidence, learn to love yourself and enjoy that inner peace and
calm.It is important to acknowledge the pain, to recognize the cause, to be able to integrate
the fragmented pieces and be willing to take it to the next step to be whole again. Then,you
will be able to share love and peace with the world.
Healing extends beyond the physical state. When the pain is so deep, the spirit, the soul also
bears the pain. It comes in hauntingly in the dark of the night,it fills a once loving heart with
venom, it could ravage a once healthy mind and body. Beneath a once beautiful and graceful
soul is the mask of vengeance. Venom for venom.
BLOCKS TO HEALING
Sometimes, the path to healing is full of potholes. Indeed, the path is covered with blocks,
where healing can not be accomplished,it's almost out of reach.
Impediments on the path:
This is a long list:
denial, apathy, self-absorption and self-indulgence, addiction, putting up walls and barriers,
busy-bee syndrome, compartmentalizing, isolation,withdrawal from society, cynicism, loss
of faith, poor me syndrome, anger, fear of getting hurt again, martyr complex,neurosis
or psychosis, aggressive/ oppressive behaviour, confrontational attitude guilt complex,
resignation, loss of motivation.
Sometimes, we hurt those we love most deeply, likewise, we bear the pain they cause. Time
is a great healer, but don't take the painfully slow route and miss out on what the world holds
for you.
Let life flow for you and with you.
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